I am a black masculine of center woman who is in a relationship with another black masculine of center woman. We have been together almost 5 years. We are also in an open relationship and have been open since we first got together.
I realize that this isn’t the ‘typical’ lesbian relationship with a monogamous (I say that very loosely) fem/dom dynamic. That is probably why we work and are very happy together.
We’re happy together because we respect each other. We’re attuned to each other’s needs and wants. We make sacrifices and compromises for each other. We are each other’s VERY best friend.
We took the time to get to know one another and it’s a process that is ongoing. We are constantly self checking ourselves individually and as a couple to see where we can improve or make changes. We realize nothing lasts forever to include feelings, needs, desires. We try very hard not to take each other for granted and we NEVER assume anything but always ask if we need clarification. We allow each other room to grow. We recognize each other’s egos/emotions and we manage them in positive ways. We acknowledge and respect each other’s privacy and space. We are two very different individuals who happen to be in a relationship and we never lose sight of that.
We continue to be happy because we keep family, friends, and the public OUT of our business. We don’t air any dirty laundry for the world to sniff. We don’t run and tell our problems without first discussing/confronting each other. We don’t brag to other people about how good our relationship is because others will surely want a taste and come for us. We are careful about who we keep in our inner circle.
We are an example of an ‘unconventional’ relationship that not only works but thrives. No, it’s not always perfect but when it’s not, we have the tools to correct the issues that need to be corrected. We don’t let outsiders dictate who we are or what we should be doing in terms of our relationship. We ONLY live for our happiness. So no matter what you think about how we do US, just remember…it’s US not YOU!
Live YOUR life!
SS
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Anonymous asked: I went out last night and this girl was interested in me and I only picked up on it when she had already moved on and I couldn't figure out how to get her attention again. This is the first time I felt the need to write one of this missed connections. I need help so this never happens again. Sorry to treat u like one of those ask aunt Rita columns but ur advice is good. It happens sometimes. If you’re in another space, you may not notice the subtle hints of flirtation. If you know who she is, just reach out to her. If you don’t, then maybe post a missed connection in your local paper. I hope you find her. Good luck. SS |
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Anonymous asked: Happy 420 bro! I have chilling n tokin with you on my bucketlist and will approach you when I can make that a reality. In the meantime, I need some help with something. Me (trans) and this boi I'm fucking want to get a femme to join us for a three some. Problem is we don't know how to approach someone. I am sure you have had your fair share of 3somes, what has worked for you and what would you advise us to do? Thanks for your help. Have a good weekend. HAPPY 420 to you too! I look forward to blowing trees with you as well! THREEEEEEEEEEEEESOMES!!! Yes lawd they are awesome. For real the only way to approach this is to ASK! If you have someone in mind just ask her! If you don’t know anyone then place an ad on Craigslist. I heard OK Cupid is the spot now for hookups too. It’s better than Craigslist because you can see pics and profiles so you’ll know what ppl are into off the break. Or get on Fetlife.com and make a profile. I can almost guarantee you’ll get a bite on your line from that sight. I have no doubt you’ll find someone to spice up the night with! Good luck and if it happens LET ME KNOW!! SS |
Yep it’s that time! BBH is doing it again! I’m happy to say I’ll be attending. Come drink, smoke, chat and dance with me! I’d love to see some of my tumblr, twitter, Faceboook peeps!!! Let’s kick off summer the right way!
When: Saturday, April 20, 2013
Time: Party starts at 11pm
Where: BAT HAUS Coworking Space
279 Starr Street (Bushwick)
BK, NY 11237
Contact @bklynboihood for more info
Kai (Slayer)
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cherrymx6 asked: Fan of Studville TV, disappointed w/ not seeing any s4s or ss4ss, stf I deal w/ daily. The point of the show; 2 help people understand the struggles studs face.However, not every stud digs super femmes, the life they show is heterosexually based. Ha you noticed?! It’s one of the main reasons why I don’t watch it or the myriad of other web series claiming to depict ‘POC lesbian life’. They ALL show the fem/dom relationship template and that’s just not me. I won’t watch shows that I can’t relate to or don’t depict a representation of my life. One of the reasons s4s gets no love is because it’s not shown with the same voracity that other relationships are. Hopefully that will change soon. I do know of a web series coming out that has an s4s story line. We’ll see once its released I guess. SS |
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