An Unconventional ‘We’
I am a black masculine of center woman who is in a relationship with another black masculine of center woman. We have been together almost 5 years. We are also in an open relationship and have been open since we first got together.
I realize that this isn’t the ‘typical’ lesbian relationship with a monogamous (I say that very loosely) fem/dom dynamic. That is probably why we work and are very happy together.
We’re happy together because we respect each other. We’re attuned to each other’s needs and wants. We make sacrifices and compromises for each other. We are each other’s VERY best friend.
We took the time to get to know one another and it’s a process that is ongoing. We are constantly self checking ourselves individually and as a couple to see where we can improve or make changes. We realize nothing lasts forever to include feelings, needs, desires. We try very hard not to take each other for granted and we NEVER assume anything but always ask if we need clarification. We allow each other room to grow. We recognize each other’s egos/emotions and we manage them in positive ways. We acknowledge and respect each other’s privacy and space. We are two very different individuals who happen to be in a relationship and we never lose sight of that.
We continue to be happy because we keep family, friends, and the public OUT of our business. We don’t air any dirty laundry for the world to sniff. We don’t run and tell our problems without first discussing/confronting each other. We don’t brag to other people about how good our relationship is because others will surely want a taste and come for us. We are careful about who we keep in our inner circle.
We are an example of an ‘unconventional’ relationship that not only works but thrives. No, it’s not always perfect but when it’s not, we have the tools to correct the issues that need to be corrected. We don’t let outsiders dictate who we are or what we should be doing in terms of our relationship. We ONLY live for our happiness. So no matter what you think about how we do US, just remember…it’s US not YOU!
Live YOUR life!
Brooklyn Boihood Spring 4/20 Party!!!
Yep it’s that time! BBH is doing it again! I’m happy to say I’ll be attending. Come drink, smoke, chat and dance with me! I’d love to see some of my tumblr, twitter, Faceboook peeps!!! Let’s kick off summer the right way!
When: Saturday, April 20, 2013
Time: Party starts at 11pm
Where: BAT HAUS Coworking Space
279 Starr Street (Bushwick)
BK, NY 11237
Contact @bklynboihood for more info
Brown Bois in Bed Being Bad
Tumblr is seriously taking down porn videos…for me there’s no point in having a tumblr. I’ll be looking for a new blog home soon. Porn makes tumblr the bomb ass site it USED to be.
Transgender Q&A from the New York Times
Some might find it helpful to share these answers with friends and family members.
This is a fantastic Q & A about *trans health and especially resourceful for health care providers to ensure culturally competent care for *trans/gender non-conforming ppl.
I Am Forever Queird: Janet Mock will be at Equality & Justice Day!
If you are a New Yorker, and you support transgender rights, join us at the state Capitol for Equality & Justice Day on April 30th! Whether you are transgender/gender non-conforming, family, or an ally, you are welcome to rally for Transgender Equality!
Right now in New York State, it is totally…
SUPPORT SUPPORT SUPPORT!!!!
FIERCE, CUNTINESS SERVING F.A.C.E!!! Ya’ll betta WERK! #KAPOW